12 Things Your Labor & Delivery Nurse Wants You to Know

As labor and delivery nurses, we see it all. No two births are the same, and each labor journey is different. While it can be hard to anticipate exactly how things will go, there are a few constants that we want you to know. Above all, remember that your body knows what to do. Trust in yourself and the process. We’re here to guide and support you through every step of the way. 

1. We’re all on your side.

You are the most important member of the birth team. In addition to you and baby being healthy we want you to feel like an active member of the team, be proud of your efforts, and have a positive birth experience. 

2. Movement is key.  

Getting into different positions helps baby navigate their way through the pelvis. Your nurse will offer different strategies to find what works best for you and your baby. Don’t hesitate to let us know what’s comfortable and what isn’t. 

3. Birth takes time – especially the first time.  

Your body needs time to adjust, especially during your first labor. Be patient, relax, and plan some fun activities like watching a show or playing games during early labor at home. 

4. Think in terms of preferences, not a birth plan.  

Labor is unpredictable, and your baby plays a big role in the process. Instead of having a rigid birth plan, consider what’s most important to you and discuss your preferences with your doctor. Find out what your options are and think about what you may like to try. TikTok and Snapchat are fun, but they’re not always the best for reliable birth information. Use reputable sources like ACOG or healthychildren.org. Talk to your OB if you need clarification on what you’ve seen online. We suggest all first-time parents participate in our “Learn to Labor” classes to learn all the ins and outs of birth!  

5. We don’t mind being the “Bad Guy.” 

Labor is an intimate, special time. If certain visitors or situations make you uncomfortable, we’re happy to help manage your space. We want you to feel supported and safe. 

6. It’s okay to be vocal.  

Birth is hard work! Moaning, grunting, and deep breathing are all effective coping strategies. Don’t shy away from expressing yourself—these sounds help you through the process. 

7. Be gentle with yourself – it’s okay to change your mind.

Labor is unpredictable, and changing your mind about what you want is normal. Be open to adjusting your approach as labor progresses, and don’t be hard on yourself for being flexible. 

8. Learning to breastfeed takes time.

Both you and your baby are learning together. Be patient and take your time with skin-to-skin contact. If breastfeeding doesn’t work for you, that’s okay too—there’s no right or wrong way. 

9. Prepare for induction.  

Inductions can take time, sometimes even days. Be sure to prepare yourself and your family for the possibility that the baby won’t arrive right away. Bring items to pass the time. 

10. Don’t be afraid of the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU).

Few parents anticipate their newborns needing intensive care. If your baby needs intensive care, Elliot Hospital’s Level III NICU provides expert care for preterm infants as early as 22 weeks. Our team is here to support you and ensure your baby is well cared for in a nurturing, family-oriented environment. 

11. Don’t worry about your appearance on our account. 

Many parents feel compelled to get a pedicure and shave before delivery. There is no need to do any of that – you have so many things to do at the end of your pregnancy, managing these tasks does not have to be one of them! 

12. After baby – take care of yourself, too.

Post-birth, it’s easy to focus solely on your baby. But taking a moment each morning for simple self-care, like a shower, will set the tone for the day and leave you feeling refreshed and ready. Remember, a healthy mom means a healthier baby! 

Your labor and delivery experience is just that—yours. Trust your body, lean on your support team, and remember that your L&D nurses are here to help you every step of the way. Whether it’s trying a new position, offering guidance on breastfeeding, or just being the “bad guy” when necessary, we’ve got your back. Birth may not always go as planned, but you’ll make it through with patience, flexibility, and support. 

Learn more about personalized, compassionate labor and delivery services at The Elliot 

Amanda Morneau was a night shift labor and delivery nurse at Elliot Hospital for 9 years and now coordinates and teaches our childbirth education classes. 

DaNae Belt is the clinical nurse manager for the labor & delivery and childbirth education departments at Elliot Hospital.